I hear the words all the time, “But he loves me” And I’m forced to return the harsh truth of explaining that, “That isn’t love” People have a misconception that love is suppose to hurt because you go through problems and arguments in relationships. Yes couples argue. Yes couples have disagreements. But love isn’t suppose to hurt. If somebody loves you, they wouldn’t hurt you. Physically or emotionally. The definition of hurt is to be detrimental to; synonyms include weaken, ruin, wreck, and cripple. Does that sound like love????
People say, “But when you argue with a spouse or partner, aren’t you hurt?” I reply, “No I’m upset” That is two different emotions that people seem to but into one box. When you are upset, there is an anger behind those emotions. You don’t technically have to be hurt about a situation. When you are hurt it normally isn’t a once time emotion. It is something that reoccurs again and again. So i ask again is this love???
You should know by now that the purpose of this blog is to show you how love isn’t suppose to hurt. There are a lot of up and down feelings with love, but hurt should never be one of them. You should never be in something that is toxic or draining to your energy. You should never be in a situation where you don’t recognize the person you are becoming……where you are changing to fit somebody else’s needs.
Just simply walk away. I know it sounds easier said then done, but walk away before its too late. Too many times we stay in relationships with people because we don’t want to start over, or we feel like we have history with this person so we want to stick around. History isn’t always good. And starting over shouldn’t be something we are afraid of. Change is necessary in certain situations. Don’t hold on to something that isnt doing you any good….or wont better or benefit you in the long run. You can move on. You can find something better. If it hurts it isnt love. Reevaluate your situation. Ask yourself can you deal with this for the rest of your life. If not……..walk away.