Opening Up: You Cant Hold It All In

“I’m having a hard time knowing where to start this conversation…… is the typical response to people going through personal situations and don’t know how to speak out. Most people who are going through situation are more quiet and reserved and don’t know how to express their feelings. Or they feel like they don’t have a proper audience to express themselves too. This can lead to various issues of depression, suicidal thoughts and so on and so on. Holding in how you feel and what you are going through is not something that you should do.

As a person who battles with depression and suicidal thoughts, as I mentioned in my last blog, I understand the serious outcome of not opening up about your problems and expressing how you feel inside.

Opening up doesn’t have to always be bad. As people we can share the good that’s going on in our lives too. Typically, that’s what we do anyway. We want to keep up these perceptions of these perfect lives and only show people the good.

So, when a close family member or friend commits suicide or tries to harm themselves we are sitting back looking confused because we thought all along that they were living these happy, normal lives. When that was all a front to hide the real pain they were going through.

As family members and close friends we should be paying attention to the signs that someone is not doing well, or that somebody is having a hard time. We should be asking people about their day. We should be asking them do they have events and activities coming up so we can support them. Sometimes you need somebody else to help you when its time to open up about situations and problems going on in your life. When you ask people direct questions, its easier for them to answer and open up about whats going on?

Questions like:

1. How are you feeling?

2. Are you depressed?

3. Is it something directly effecting you in your life right now?

4. Did something happen to make you feel like this?

5. Are you okay, is it something you need to tell me?

These questions can really help a person open up more to what is going on in their lives at the moment.

WE HAVE TO OPEN UP ABOUT WHAT WE ARE GOING THROUGH!

WE CAN NOT GET HELP, IF WE DON’T TALK ABOUT IT!

Tips to learn to open up:

1. Find a close family member or friend to talk to

2. Get a diary and write about your day (the good or bad)

3. Use positive outlets to express your feelings (painting, writing poetry, singing, dancing….etc.)

4. DON’T BE AFRAID TO TALK!

5. DON’T BE AFRAID TO ADMIT YOU NEED HELP!

6. DON’T BE AFRAID TO REACH OUT FOR HELP!

Remember you can’t hold all of your emotions and problems in, it will eat you alive!